She was in complete hesterics by the time she finished telling me all of the details of why she was so upset.
It was quite a lot to deal with but I asked her if she was open to going down to one of the many restaurants about two blocks from where she lived and get a job as a waitress in the evenings so she could have the extra funds she needed. Then her next assignment wass to call the veterinarian and ask what sort of payment arrangements he would accept. I asked her to put a piece of cardboard over the window and use the $15 to buy a retread tire for her car until she could afford a decent one.Then after I told her she could use her Walkman for music until she was able to replace her radio she actually laughed.
She said her parents had never taught her how to use problem solving techniques. She had transformed from a fearful young woman who felt hopeless to an adult who had a plan. It was amazing to witness over a simple hours time.
Are all life’s problems that easy to solve? Not at all. Anyone would know that but when it comes to having parents who want to do everything for their children, they cheat them out of learning how to cope with difficulties and the inevitable challenges of life.