Children Adapt

We all have bad habits. We all have things we have learned to do that do not serve us. If it happens to be yelling when you’re angry, counting to ten rarely is enough of an incentive to break the habit. But what if you learned why you get angry has more to do with someone taking away your control of yourself physically when you were a child?

Imagine being three years old and you’re playing peacefully outside and your parent comes out impatiently grabbing you with no explanation, puts you in the car and drives off. One minutes you’re playing the next you’re totally confused. Are they mad at you? Did you do something wrong? Why couldn’t you continue to play? If the incident is repeated, which it more than likely will be, then it will become a learned behavior for you to act out and try to regain control over what you are doing. At first you might cry, then you learn to scream and throw temper tantrums and as an adult, you might do all of them. It’s as simple as that. Children are pliable. They mold well to most circumstances and when they’re made to feel safe and secure, they can adapt to nearly any situation.

But if their newly formed psyche is shocked into interruptions continuously, there is a pattern interrupt that will cause long term inability to cope with sudden changes or not getting their own way.