Imagine if she had stayed on the ship, lived her life filled with the stress of her family obligation unfulfilled. What a difference one decision can make.

Many times when I am speaking to groups I ask them how many people have stress in their lives. Typically 99% of the hands will rise. Then I ask them to tell me where their stress comes from. Their answers are always the same: their job, traffic, family, lack of money, bills and their lack of a job.

My answer is always the same, “No, it comes from your imagination! You have made it up! So if you can make it up, why can’t you stop making it up?”

Their reactions are of surprise, dismay and curiosity. Yes, they would like to minimize the stress in their lives, but they have no idea how to go about it.

The first step is to recognize where stress comes from and then I like to recommend a technique of flipping their index finger with their thumb and the wrist where their pulse is. It sends an electrical shock to the fingertips and to the brain. It’s a Neuro Linguistic Program technique, but rather than snapping a rubber band on your wrist which will leave a welt and really hurt, it is a more gentle approach, but just as effective.